The thought of getting up in front of a crowd of people and making a speech is enough to make lots of people feel anxious. Having a fear of public speaking is common. For some people, this anxiety develops into a fear of speaking in all situations. It can vary from a fear of speaking in front of a crowd such as a speech or presentation, all the way to fear of social situations, even one to one situations. Fear of public speaking is a form of social anxiety. When you're speaking publicly, the audience will be paying attention to you and listening to what you have to say. What can happen is the fear of being judged, which can be triggered when lots of people are paying attention to you. This can feel overwhelming. The fear can be reinforced when we feel we make mistakes.
I wanted to share some feedback on the results I've had since the BWRT® session in October. I had a problem at work which massively knocked my confidence dealing with customers. I had taken around a month off during summer as the work event (a customer complaint about me) triggered an episode of acute anxiety and depression. I spent time at home and had some talking therapy and slowly was phased back into work. However, I was keeping up a pretty decent façade of confidence and competence while secretly, deep down doubting my own ability to do my job and interact with customers. On returning to work I had to speak at a large meeting with around 20 doctors at a hospital. Perhaps I wasn't ready to return to work but the meeting was very negative. I was on edge, very defensive and also just very scared despite this kind of meeting being something I had been doing at work for the last 20 years! I stumbled over words, repeated myself several times and basically delivered a fairly useless presentation and retreated from the room crushed. My big return to work had been deflated by this self-perpetuating belief that I was not credible, knowledgeable or able to speak to customers anymore.
The BWRT® session was where things changed. I remembered that negative meeting, with all the doctors bemused eyes on me as I waffled my way through some clinical info and hurriedly retreated to the corridor disappointed and dejected. During the session, you suggested the scene I had remembered be changed to how I would like it to be. I thought of myself in the same room with the same people yet feeling calm, delivering a very clear message and feeling nonchalant about even being there, instead focusing my attention on the content of the presentation I was giving. It seemed too simple. However, as the session was happening I felt very new physical sensations like tingling in my hands and legs, a sense of warmth and I also cried. I wasn't upset so much as needing an emotional release. I knew that something was changing right then. Immediately afterward I felt lighter and quite relieved of a burden.
So what has changed in the last few months? In some ways not much and in some ways, everything. I have now been in front of internal company colleagues and customers in both one to one meetings and larger meetings. The overall sense I have now in my customer interactions now is 'nonchalance'. This sounds negative. For me it isn't! I'm naturally a very highly strung, excitable character. So what I need is a dose of calmness. I now feel nonchalant about being in a situation where I am aware of my nerves with a customer and being in the same space as them with the attention being on me. Now I feel very focused on what they are saying and in control of the responses I am able to give. This is allowing my attention to be centered around the discussions we are having. I feel more in control and present in the room with people. The change has been quite significant and In the most weirdly subtle yet dramatic and impactful way, I've allowed myself to be the person I always looked up to at work. Confident and capable.
Thank you so much.
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You may try to relax, but this may not help enough. This is because the symptoms you experience stem from your subconscious. Hypnotherapy for public speaking anxiety can help you build confidence. Hypnotherapy works with your subconscious to reframe the anxious thoughts. If the anxiety is coming from past events, we can look at those and reframe them rather than allowing them to continue producing outdated anxiety. Suggestion and visualisation techniques can also be used to instil different thinking, boost confidence and reduce anxiety. This will help you feel calm and collected when you are required to speak in public. While having some anxious thoughts or 'nerves' when speaking publicly such as a wedding speech or an important job interview, when it starts to have a detrimental effect on life, or when it becomes overwhelming, then it may be time to get some help to feel how you'd prefer to feel!
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